The Masturbation Myth

Masturbation is defined as the erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various combinations of these agencies. (Basically playing with ones genitals to achieve sexual arousal and/or climax)


There are plenty of nay-sayers when it comes to talk to Masturbation. Many conservative religious groups teach that masturbation is a sinful practice. The Catechism of the Catholic Church lists masturbation as one of the 'offenses against chastity' cautioning that extenuating factors could exist, such as immaturity and psychological issues.It has also been said Masturbation will cause blindness, nosebleeds, headaches, acne, epilepsy, and hair growth on the palms. Recent Medical Studies has found that not only does Masturbation NOT cause these symptoms but it can also help to relieve stress and depression, reduce headaches, and even prevent Prostate Cancer in men. 


In 2003, an Australian Research Team led by Graham Giles of the Cancer Council conducted a medical study and concluded frequent masturbation by males may help prevent the development of prostate cancer. it was found that men who ejaculated on average seven times per week (beginning in their 20's) were one-third less likely to have aggressive prostate cancer in the future as opposed to those who ejaculated less than three times per week. It was also found that ejaculation by masturbation would be more helpful than ejaculation through sexual intercourse because intercourse can transmit diseases which in turn can increase the risk of cancer. As an Example HPV(Human papillomavirus) transmitted during intercourse is the leading cause in women for Cervical Cancer.


There has been no medical Evidence however to prove that Masturbation impairs ones physical or mental health. In fact Medical Researchers have concluded that Masturbation is a good way to learn about ones body and be able to better communicate with ones Partner. Masturbation is a very common behavior even in those who have a partner. In a national study 95% of males and 89% of females reported that they have Masturbated. so not only is it common but also sexually healthy and pleasurable!


But I Don't Know How...
Never fear! there are plenty of Women who dont know how to Masturbate. it is fairly common given the early discouragement from touching 'down there. Masturbation is often a private and personal self-gratifying experience. if you have never masturbated before (or dont know how) it is a simple matter of exploring down south and discovering what feels best. 

Men learn quickly what it takes to arouse and get themselves off. the female body is a bit more complex and mysterious than that. Some women when they are young find that if feels good to rub their genitals against sheets and blankets or objects such as pillows and teddy bears. others prefer 'Manual Stimulation' caressing the clitoris (the small button-like nub protruding from the vagina) with your fingers.


Some women use objects such as vibrators and or dildos to stimulate the clitoris and insert into the vagina. Every person is different, keep in mind it may take a little while to orgasm depending on how turned on you are and how your body works. it can take anywhere from two to twenty minutes (or more) to achieve orgasm so dont get frustrated relax and do what feels good. When You discover something that REALLY feels good do it more. Masturbation will help You learn more about Your likes and dislikes and communicate them with your partner. 


But It's Embarrassing!!!
No one said you had to start performing on live webcam! Relax. If you're not comfortable sharing your findings with your partner thats your own personal business, however telling your partner know your secret hot spots will not only prove to be more pleasurable for you it will also give your partner a confidence boost and open up a door for communication.


Please remember when sharing your new findings in the realm of solo-masturbation to never 'scold' your partner. saying 'you dont do this right' or 'no, not like that.' a simple 'maybe try it this way?' while leading them to your secret places with a pleasurable moan for encouragement is just enough. Once You and Your partner have discovered what makes you pant, its time to return the favor...

for those who are unfamiliar with the penis, most of the nerve endings are located beneath the Glans (Head or tip of the penis) around the Frenulum. The Frenulum is a highly sensitive nerve ending however...this doesnt mean however that you have to (or should) focus on that specific area there are many spots on the shaft that are unusually sensitive including the scrotum. You might try playing with them lightly or cupping them. Keep in mind, this is not a race, take Your time and vary Your speed while stroking the Penis/shaft. it also helps to have some sort of lubrication to prevent skin irritation from prolonged rubbing.


Mutual Masturbation is the act of you and your partner masturbating one another for sexual arousal and climax. Mutual Masturbation is a great way of coping with differing sex drives,(you dont both have to be in the mood at the same time to enjoy it. you can build up to it.) and it can be the beginning of sharing a new level of intimacy. talk about it with your partner and make sure you're both comfortable with the idea before diving right into it. you dont want to pressure and you shouldn't accept someone pressuring you if you dont feel ready.


if You have decided Mutual Masturbation is the way You want to go, take your time and enjoy one another. learn what it is your partner likes and keep in mind it might be a little embarrassing or awkward so be encouraging. You may find with time solo-masturbation and Mutual masturbation can be highly erotic. Don't be afraid to explore or try new things. Switch up Your positions and talk to one another open communication is important in maintaining a healthy and happy Relationship. There is no right or wrong way in regards to Masturbation. go with what you feel and dont force it, let your body respond to the feelings naturally.